[blparent] My story and request for help

[David Andrews]

Gabe, I would say two things, first, life isn't fair.  Secondly, you 
bring some of this on yourself, your messages come across pretty 
harshly sometimes.  They are also viewed by some as being arrogant.

I think you have contributed good things to this list, and can 
continue to do so.  However, I also hope you think a little more 
about how the things you say may come across to others.

I was a Communications major in college, and in Comm 101 the first 
thing they taught us was that it isn't what you think you said that 
matters, but what others think you said.

Dave

At 08:56 AM 4/23/2013, you wrote:
>why is it every time I contribute a less than agreeable statement I 
>get the wrath of the women on this list. but the first time I 
>mention doing anything with my kids or about my kids as a single 
>father, I get vilified do to your apparent perception of me wanting 
>as it was once said "A father of the year award".
>Gabe Vega
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>On Apr 23, 2013, at 6:43 AM, "Jennifer Jackson" 
><jennifersjackson at att.net> wrote:
>
> > Gabe, what are you trying to contribute to the list with this comment?
> >
> >
> > Jennifer
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gabe Vega
> > Via Iphone4S
> > Sent: Monday, April 22, 2013 9:17 PM
> > To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Cc: Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Subject: Re: [blparent] My story and request for help
> >
> > I'm of the opinion, that may be blind people should have the appropriate
> > life skills, before having babies.
> >
> > Gabe Vega
> > Sent from my iPhone
> > (623) 565-9357
> >
> > On Apr 22, 2013, at 7:03 PM, "melissa R green" <graduate56 at juno.com> wrote:
> >
> >> Hi pippy.
> >> May be you should put your story out on the colorado talk list.
> >> You and CCB may get some suggestions.
> >> I would be your childcare but I live an hour away from the CCB.
> >> May be all of the centers should think about childcare options for their
> >> students.
> >> Just my thoughts.
> >> Blessings,
> >> Sincerely,
> >> Melissa and Pj
> >> Find me on:
> >> Twitter melissa5674
> >> facebook Melissa R Green
> >> Linkedin www.linkedin.com/in/melissagreen5674
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >> ----- Original Message -----
> >> From: "Pipi" <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
> >> To: "Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> Sent: Monday, April 22, 2013 9:46 AM
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] My story and request for help
> >>
> >>
> >> Jennifer,
> >> Thank you for this. I have waiting as a back up plan. My reasons for not
> >> doing so are many, but I know that may be the route I need to go. My
> >> current living/working situation isn't the greatest. We are safe and
> >> necessities met, but it has been a great emotional strain on me and
> >> therefore also on my relationship with Savannah and other family members.
> >> I don't really want to go into great detail here, but the sooner I can
> >> make this transition, the better for myself, Savannah, and the others
> >> that I live with. Things have been going downhill and continue to do so.
> >> I don't want a ruined relationship with my family and I fear the longer
> >> I stay here, that is going to be how it ends up.
> >> But yes, if I must wait another year, I will.
> >> Pipi
> >> On 4/21/2013 6:52 PM, Jennifer Jackson wrote:
> >>> Pippy,
> >>>
> >>> I know you are excited to make this change in your life. I hate to
> > suggest
> >>> this, but perhaps you may need to consider waiting until next year when
> >>> your
> >>> daughter will be in kindergarten. Most schools seem to be moving to all
> >>> day
> >>> kindergarten programs, and many have very affordable after school child
> >>> care
> >>> programs. The after school program at my son's school is $7 a day and
> >>> seems
> >>> to be well run from what I understand from other parents.
> >>>
> >>> I hope you can find something that will work out for this year, but I
> >>> wanted
> >>> to suggest this as a possible option if this does not work out for the
> >>> immediate future. You have my best wishes as well as my admiration for
> >>> taking action to be in charge of your own future.
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> Jennifer
> >>>
> >>> -----Original Message-----
> >>> From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Pipi
> >>> Sent: Sunday, April 21, 2013 3:07 PM
> >>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
> >>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My story and request for help
> >>>
> >>> Bridgit,
> >>> Yes, I ahve spoken to the director about it. She suggested I contact the
> >>> NFB of Kansas to see if they could help. I have tried several times to
> >>> do this with no return emails or phone calls. I have updated the
> >>> director on my situation in messages and she is on my list of phone
> >>> calss to attempt again Monday.
> >>> Pipid
> >>> On 4/21/2013 2:43 PM, Bridgit Pollpeter wrote:
> >>>> Pippi,
> >>>>
> >>>> Have you spoke directly with someone from CCB about this issue?
> >>>>
> >>>> Bridgit
> >>>>
> >>>> Message: 4
> >>>> Date: Sat, 20 Apr 2013 14:06:24 -0500
> >>>> From: Pipi <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
> >>>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My story and request for help.
> >>>> Message-ID: <5172E730.5080301 at gmail.com>
> >>>> Content-Type: text/plain; charset=ISO-8859-1; format=flowed
> >>>>
> >>>> Rehab is paying for me to attend CCB, but they do not pay for out of
> >>>> state childcare.
> >>>> Pipi