[blparent] update on our lives.

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

Shannon, it's good to hear from you.  I know that boys take longer to toilet 
train, but at four, I would recommend getting a doctor's opinion on any 
physical problems that may be undiagnosed.  I also think it wouldn't hurt to 
seek the judgment of a developmental specialist regarding the blocks in the 
bucket test.  My daughter will be five next month, and I know she could pass 
a test like that, although there's a big difference between a just turned 
four-year-old and an almost five-year-old.  In any case, having Myles 
checked out will ease your mind, if nothing else.

Wow, I can't imagine they haven't removed your eye yet!  I hope it will 
happen soon.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may 
kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at 
evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
-----Original Message----- 
From: Bernadetta
Sent: Wednesday, January 30, 2013 6:16 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: Re: [blparent] update on our lives.

Wow, this is a tough one. I can certainly sense your frustration with
the situation and you have my sympathies, from one mom to another.
I am no expert in this at all, but my humble oppinion is that you
should definitely address this with your child's pediatrician as soon
as possible. You should also request to be referred to a specialist of
some sort to try and help you deal with this. My guess is that it may
be a developmental issue, just judging by what you said about him not
being able to comprehend the test with the beeps and the blocks in the
bucket. Don't quote me on this, but as far as I know, no matter how
stubborn a child is, he or she is usually able to be trained by around
three, four at the latest unless some underlying issues are stopping
this from happening. By not having him trained by this point, he is
most likely missing out on many social opportunities that kids his age
most certainly get. Do you have him in preschool, for instance?
About the babysitting delemma...It seems that you have someone
babysitting your child who may not be up to the task. A famly member of
mine has some mild developmental issues; They've never been diagnosed
but it's pretty obvious--And while she loves my son dearly and she is
twwenty-five years old, I would not feel comfortable to leave her with
him unsupervised because she does have the mentality of a young
teenager. She's a lot like a kid herself, even moreso than an average
teenager in fact--My point is, if you don't feel comfortable with that
babysitter, you shouldn't use her services. I do understand that your
options are limitted, but all the more reason to expedite this potty
training issue. Meanwhile, look online to see if you can find a
dedicated nurse or someone who works with incontinent adults or
specializes in childcare, someone who's professional life makes them
perfectly capable  to change and manage a big toddler in that way. I
say this because if you find someone who changes people other than
babies on a regular basis to babysit for your child, he or she won't
have a problem with it. Your son deserves care from a sitter that is
efficient and competent, not only in childcare in general but in
managing his specific circumstances.
Good luck, and I hope this helps, even a little.
Please keep us updated

You'll be in our thoughts and prayers

Bernadetta.

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