[blparent] How do you all handle the issue of your kids not telling the truth?

[Brandy W., with Discovery Toys]

You hit the nail on the head! You have to check to the point of being annoying so they figure out that you will find out and that telling the truth is easier. I also recommend you make the punishment fit the crime as best you can and make it unpleasant enough that she doesn't want to lie again. So Guess you won't be going out for a few days since you lied, and did something you know is wrong to begin with. I've had to go as far as making a kid stay right with me so if I'm washing dishes guess you are sitting at my feet board because I can't trust you to do things without me there. Usually a day or 2 of this has an effect on a kid her age pretty quickly. Also when you have to discipline point out what the punishment would have been if they had told the truth and what it will be because they lied. For example a friends little boy threw a toy across the room and it really cracked his sister in the head. She had a giant goose egg, but he tried to say he was standing by her and tried to drop it in her lap. If he had told the trooth all he would have had to do was listen to the lecture about not throwing toys and prob put those toys away, but instead he ended up sitting on my floor for the last hour they were here, and I'm quite sure he got spanked when he got home. A few of such lies, and he is starting to think about the consequences of his words. I also try very hard to pay attention to how things sound, so if I didn't hear the normal sounds of shoes going on, and the sounds of the kid walking across the floor with shoes I'd ask again if the shoes were on. 

Lying is a tough one! 

Brandy Wojcik  
Discovery Toys ?Educational Consultant
www.playtoachieve.com

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Thursday, May 30, 2013 9:50 PM
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Subject: [blparent] How do you all handle the issue of your kids not telling the truth?

My five-year-old has fallen into a bit of a bad habit of telling lies lately.  None that are too serious yet, but unfortunately her big brother, my stepson, helped her figure out that she could sneak things past me.  I told them not to take a kite to the park with them that belonged to their dad, and he waltzed right out the door with that kite under my nose when I didn’t know about it.  My daughter ratted him out when they got home, and later she told me she was uncomfortable with what he had done but that she didn’t know what to do about it at the time.  I said she could tell me anything and that she needed to let me know if her brother was doing stuff that made her uncomfortable.  Since then, she’s started testing the waters, like today she told me she had her shoes and socks on when she went outside with her friends to ride bikes.  When she came back in, her dad was home, and he scolded her for running around outside barefoot.  So I found out she really hadn’t put on her shoes and socks.  I’m afraid she’s going to scrape her toes or step on something and cut her foot.  I said that since I couldn’t trust her to tell me the truth, I’d have to check her feet with my hands before I let her go outside anymore so I knew she would be safe.  But it got me to wondering how some of you other blind parents have handled the issue since I don’t want her thinking she can pull stuff over on me.  Thanks.

Jo Elizabeth

Truth is tough. It will not break, like a bubble, at a touch; nay, you may kick it about all day like a football, and it will be round and full at evening.--Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
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