[blparent] Question for Blind Dads About Dressing Babies

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				This is how I do it, place the child in the
position that I'd do for myself. It just makes sense that way. 

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Subject: Re: [blparent] Question for Blind Dads About Dressing Babies

OK, I'm laughing just a little remembering my stepdad dressing my baby
sister. That man he never could figure out how to get clothes on her the
right way they always seem to be inside out and backwards. I think it is a
man thing not a blind man thing.

I know that my dad preferred to dress my brother and sister on the floor. He
would set them up with their back to him. And then pull the shirt over their
head. And then put the arms through. Then he would lay them down and pull
the onesie down and snack also children's place and many other stores make
one piece romper  this time of year they are much like a onesie with
slightly longer legs. These would go on the same as a sleeve or minus the
legs and feet and would likely do the same for him to get on. He could then
unsnap it all the way lay it down, and then lay her on top and put in the
arms and then snap down the middle until she was essentially dressed. If I
lived closer I would help Good sent  from my iPhone

> On Jun 15, 2016, at 2:13 PM, KailaAllen via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org>
wrote:
> 
> Has he practiced at all on a baby doll, maybe that would help him figure
out a way to get it over the child's head and arms through the whole.  
> 
> Thank you, 
> 
> Kaila
> 
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>> On Jun 15, 2016, at 11:06 AM, Allison via BlParent <blparent at nfbnet.org>
wrote:
>> 
>> Hi All,
>> 
>> Happy Father's Day everyone. I have a question that anybody on here is
welcome to chime in on, but I'm especially looking for suggestions from
blind dads. How did you learn to dress your baby? Was the process ever
difficult for you and what helped it get easier?
>> 
>> My daughter is five-months-old and my husband is having a lot of
difficulty dressing her. I kept hoping this issue would get better over time
with practice, but it's not improving all that much. So far he can only
manage footie pjs, which is something, but we live in the desert where it is
100 degrees or more each day and footies are too warm. Any other clothing
like onsies,  dresses, t-shirts, etc seems to baffle my husband and send our
daughter into fits of screaming and crying as he tries to dress her. I'm
blind myself and can get our baby dressed okay. So I don't think it's just a
blindness issue. I think having sight would help my husband to learn some of
this more easily, but it's certainly not required because other blind
parents, myself included, manage it. 
>> 
>> I think that maybe guys in general are given very little practice with
dressing small children. And my guess is that blind men especially have
almost no chances in their lives to work on this skill. I honestly don't
know where or how I learned how to dress a baby, but I think I got some
practice on baby dolls and baby-sitting charges growing up. As a guy, my
husband didn't have those experiences, so as an adult with his own baby,
he's at a loss. 
>> 
>> I've tried giving him dressing tips both by letting him feel what I do
and through verbal description. I've also set aside a separate bag of
clothing for just him to use. It's a set of outfits that seemed easier than
others because they had large neck openings,  were one piece, and were on
the big size. So far, none of those techniques have helped, and I'm at a
loss  of what to try next because I just don't want to listen to my baby
crying during daddy dressing time each day. 
>> 
>> Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and he's a terrific dad to our
daughter. He does a lot of other baby care quite well. He is better than me
at giving our daughter medicine for example. He also doesn't shy away from a
messy diaper which I so appreciate. 
>> 
>> We really just could use some baby-dressing suggestions for him because
it is not practical for me to dress my daughter all the time. I work
full-time and my husband is home with the baby during the day. I dress her
in the morning, but if she needs a new outfit throughout the day, as babies
tend to do, he needs to be able to dress her. 
>> 
>> Thanks in advance for suggestions.
>> 
>> Best,
>> Allison
>> 
>> 
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