[blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

[Judy Jones]

We never did send our girls to bed without supper.  We would make them taste 
new foods, but we did not insist they eat foods they did not care for.  My 
girls have been good fruit and vegie eaters, and our eldest likes her meat, 
too.  Our youngest was very picky about her meat, and although we made her 
try different things, we did not force her.  I do not remember a time when 
she flatly refused to eat, and I wanted to keep mealtimes relaxed and a 
place where we could talk over the news of the day.

Judy


-----Original Message----- 
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto via BlParent
Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2016 9:42 PM
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Cc: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

I went to bed without food quite regularly as a kid, and that's one thing I
won't ever put my daughter through, no matter what she does.  Her dad and I
have been in conflict many nights over that one because she's been a picky
eater off and on, and he believes we could have put a stop to that long ago
by sending her to bed hungry a few times.  Maybe we could have, but I
remember what it's like to lie there through the night, miserable and unable
to sleep, and I won't do that to my kid, even if she's imposed it upon
herself.  I don't think sending a child to bed without supper is necessarily
child abuse.  I think some of the things we label as abuse these days
cheapen the word and minimize the actual abuse that people do survive and
rise above.  But I think not meeting a child's basic needs for food,
affection, and consistency sets him up for a lifetime of insecurity that
might not ever be overcome.

Jo Elizabeth

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-----Original Message----- 
From: Rob Kaiser via BlParent
Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2016 7:15 PM
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Cc: Rob Kaiser
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

When I was growing up, & if I did something bad, my parents would send me to
bed without supper. That, in this day & age, could be construed as too
harsh.

Rob Kaiser
Email;
rcubfank at sbcglobal.net

-----Original Message-----
From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jodie and
Kahlan via BlParent
Sent: Tuesday, March 29, 2016 5:38 PM
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Cc: Jodie and Kahlan <motherconfessor at samobile.net>
Subject: Re: [blparent] behavior problems with our 4 year old

Lol Judy, it's funny that you mentioned counting to three beccause tonight
she actually did wait until 2.9999. I told her if she wanted her bike back
tomorrow she had to go to bed with no arguing or stalling tonight. She took
as much time as I would allow her to brush her teeth and still tried to take
her own sweet time. I told her she wasn't getting her bike back if she
wasn't out of the bathroom by the time I counted to three. I heard her run
past me just as I said three, so she doesn't get her bike back tomorrow. She
will learn natural consequences if it kills me!

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