[blparent] language use concern

[Star Gazer]

				Since she's your friend, you need to realize
that just as you like having this person around, so does your son. 
We have a family member who curses like a sailor. When my oldest started to
use some of those words we told her that she may use them when she has the
experience and the wisdom that this family member has. 
Another thing you can do is give her appropriate words to use, words that
get the same frustration out or point across but that aren't so offensive
"dang it" to replace damn it" that sort of thing. You also need to use the
right words yourself at the right time and associate with people who do. I'm
not saying you need to ditch your friend, though you can't expect that some
of his or her habbits won't rub off on you, your husband or your son. There
is a reason why people judge you by the company you keep be that company
good or not so good.

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From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Judy Jones
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Sent: Wednesday, March 30, 2016 10:13 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] language use concern

I think you are right about the correcting.  Ignoring the language will make
him believe it is okay.  You are right it has to be nipped in the bud.
Think of an alternative phrase you can teach him so he can still express his
feelings but not with undesirable language.
This may sound picky to you guys, but we would never let our girls say "Shut
up,"  since that phrase can lead to so many explosive situations and hurt
feelings.  We did have them say "Be quiet."  One time, a Jamaican friend of
our said "Quiet yourself," so we ended up adopting that phrase.

Judy

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From: BlParent [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of hina altaf
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Sent: Wednesday, March 30, 2016 8:04 AM
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Cc: hina altaf
Subject: [blparent] language use concern

Hi friends,
I am having this issue with my 4 year old preschooler very regularly and
both I and my husband have tried every technique. None of us use any bad or
wrong words around our son, however, he picked up words from my friend who
is very rough and always uses all kinds of words around little kids. He has
been saying "stupid" this "stupid that" We ignored it, corrected him, told
him this is wrong and just completely ignored and did not respond so that he
may stop using it, but nothing worked.
Any suggestions you guys have or any techniques that worked for you?
Hina.

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