[nabs-l] Disagreeing with mother and others

[Jedi]

Well Beth, here's some radical deconstruction for you. In effect, we 
disabled youth are like children twice over. Not only are we actually 
young and in transition into adulthood, but society views us as young 
and unable to handle our own affairs. We are viewed as innocent with 
all that term implies. We are thought of as naive and unable to make 
decisions regarding our own welfare. And frankly, the thought of 
disabled people having romantic relationships is both curious and 
uncomfortable for many people without disabilities. Oh, and it also 
doesn't help that you are a young woman. Society, in many ways, sees 
the female gender as unaware, potential targets of danger, and unable 
to handle themselves just as disabled people are. So really, you're a 
child thrice over. Just some thoughts.

Respectfully,
Jedi

Original message:
> As far as disagreements and the lack of maturity, I think it's common
> for parents to approach things in a more united front.  To be honest,
> I sstill live at home if not in college, but my parents are trying to
> let me do things on my own.  But since my budget is too small--fifty a
> week--I can't manage money and can't do a lot.  I don't know what to
> do if I work in a vending stand operation.  So that's the thing.
> Another thing, marriage and dating is a problem because my parents
> might get word of one obsession or crush after another.  Let's face
> it.  I just want to live a normal and productive life with a husband
> and children and house of my own, but my parents still treat me like a
> small child.  They have not yet encouraged me or given me any positive
> feedback whatsoever about my good points as my old friend Kristen puts
> it.  Btw, Kristen and I have known each other since fifth grade.  So
> there I have something to stick with.
> Beth

> On 4/5/10, Gerardo Corripio <gera1027 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Hi guys: I send this not to have pity but in case some of you have lived
>> these experiences while living at home.
>> Here in Mexico (especially for blind and disabled people) one lives at home
>> a few more years than normal, not like you guys in the US that one leaves
>> home upon going to college. I've completed my major and am working but have
>> had some problems here at home, especially with my mother and am wanting to
>> (apart from someday living on my own) what tips and tricks have worked for
>> you guys?
>> I'm disagreeing on certain things that I feel should be done differently
>> here at home. My mother wen telling her I don't agree with such and such
>> says that this is my home! where is the limit between her home and our home?
>> Where is the limit when we the kids can give oppinions? Why do mothers
>> always say we won't mature and that we're acting like small children? Has
>> this happened to you guys? and lastly is the rate of parents separating
>> larger when having blind kids?
>> thanks in advanced for any ideas and surely this topic will enrich more than
>> one.
>> Gerardo


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