[nabs-l] adult discussions and high school students was RE: Long-Distance Dating

Sat Sep 8 03:18:09 UTC 2012

do u know where i can find the accessable movies that were on
blincemart.com  i have a lot i am looking for

On 9/7/12, raymond lombardi <ray214 at gmail.com> wrote:
> which movies are you looking for? I might have them and then some.
>
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> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "tiffany miles" <qtiffany1 at gmail.com>
> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 11:09 PM
> To: "National Association of Blind Students mailing list"
> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] adult discussions and high school students was RE:
> Long-Distance Dating
>
>> Hi all my name is Tiffany and I have a question I am trying to find
>> free audio descriptive movies they were accessable on
>> blindmicemart.com but are no longer there does anyone know where i can
>> go to find movies like the ones on blindmicemart.com
>>
>> On 9/7/12, Chris Nusbaum <dotkid.nusbaum at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Joshua,
>>>
>>> Please don't use me as a reason to tell somebody that a certain
>>> discussion
>>> can't be had on this list. Although I'm not in a position to comment on
>>> Koby's original question because of my age and lack of experience on
>>> this
>>> topic, I do believe it is a valid question and one which is on-topic for
>>> this list, or at least for the list as it was intended to be. If a
>>> discussion about having sex as a blind person is not appropriate for a
>>> high
>>> school student such as myself to read, why do the high schools we go to
>>> offer sex education classes as part of their curricula? If we are not
>>> mature
>>> enough to even read a question which has any sort of sexual implication,
>>> why
>>> is time set aside during the school year to have class discussions about
>>> the
>>> truth about sex? If we are to be so sheltered as to never even learn the
>>> first thing about sex until we are full-grown adults, why are our
>>> parents
>>> encouraged by their children's schools and just about everybody else who
>>> knows anything about the education of children to teach their children
>>> about
>>> sex at an early age? We learn about sex, and our parents are encouraged
>>> (and
>>> often do) teach us about it because it is a fact of life; it is a part
>>> of
>>> the real world, whether you like it or not. Too often young people as
>>> young
>>> as 13 or 14 are peer-pressured to have sex or to say or do something
>>> that
>>> has a sexual implication. This is why I believe it is important that we
>>> learn about sex at an early age; the good, the bad, and the ugly of it.
>>> Then
>>> we will be able to make a truly informed decision as to what we will do
>>> in
>>> regards to sex. Conversely, if we are sheltered, as you suggest, and
>>> don't
>>> learn the first thing about sex or similar subjects, we will not be
>>> properly
>>> prepared for the real world as it is today. While it is important that
>>> parents teach their children morals, I believe it is equally important
>>> that
>>> they be honest with their children about what is really out there in the
>>> real world and the consequences of getting involved in things like sex
>>> at
>>> an
>>> early age. While I appreciate your efforts to keep the list free of
>>> inappropriate discussion and protect me and our other high school
>>> students
>>> from inappropriate content, I feel that you are doing it to the extreme,
>>> borderlining over-protectedness and sheltering. I joined this list as
>>> well
>>> as others knowing that I would be exposed to some parts of the real
>>> world
>>> which are somewhat adult in nature, but also knowing that I had the
>>> option
>>> not to comment on or follow those threads I felt uncomfortable with
>>> reading,
>>> and that there were many people on this list and others who are much
>>> older
>>> than I and therefore might talk about things I haven't been exposed to
>>> as
>>> much yet. But I don't have a problem with this, as I respect everybody's
>>> right to freedom of speech. In short, the fact of my being a high school
>>> student as well as a member of this list should not and (in my opinion)
>>> does
>>> not restrict the freedom of speech of any other member of this list to
>>> discuss what he/she wants to discuss, as long as it remains on topic for
>>> this list; that is, that it has something to do with blindness and/or
>>> being
>>> a student. If the moderator feels that the discussion is off-topic, he
>>> is
>>> the one whose job it is to tell whoever started the discussion. But just
>>> don't use my age as support for your claim that something is
>>> inappropriate
>>> for this list.
>>>
>>> Chris Nusbaum
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>> Behalf
>>> Of Joshua Lester
>>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 9:47 PM
>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
>>>
>>> Koby: this is off topic, especially since there are high schoolers on
>>> here.
>>> Thanks, Joshua
>>> ________________________________________
>>> From: nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of
>>> Koby [kobycox at gmail.com]
>>> Sent: Friday, September 07, 2012 8:42 PM
>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>> Cc: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
>>>
>>> All,
>>> What should I do If this girl wants to have sex when I see her?
>>> Koby
>>> Sent from my iPhone
>>>
>>> On Sep 6, 2012, at 12:53 AM, Beth <thebluesisloose at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Hi, Arielle and all,
>>>>    Jason is the love I thought I'd never have.  YEs, we get on each
>>> other's nerves.  YEs, he argues with me sometimes, but people call him
>>> no
>>> good, bad, really stupid, whuatever you say they say it about him.  I
>>> think
>>> Jason has a sweet side to him.  I love Jason so much and we met in June.
>>> His mom was able to pay for the flight, but I'm afraid she won't this
>>> December or so.  I'm trying to make it easy for her to pay for it again
>>> so
>>> I
>>> can be down there with him.  I want Jason to know that just because he's
>>> blind, heart issues and all that, that doesn't mean that his life is
>>> over.
>>> HE can marry, he can have a relationship, he can have kids if he so
>>> desires,
>>> and he may engage in sex if that's whuat he wants.  Some men are nervous
>>> about sex and relationships, even Jason.  But with the help of my
>>> coaxing
>>> and calm manner, he was able to enjoy himself with me.  At least he
>>> doesn't
>>> engage in the trade of child porn and other inappropriate things that
>>> sighted men would engage in.  He has a good sense of right and wrong.
>>> He
>>> loves chocolate for breakfast. (hee hee), though I prefer eggs myself.
>>> If
>>> I
>>> look back and turn the clock back, I see that I have not made a bad
>>> choice
>>> as some are led to believe.  Honestly, I have insecurity issues, and I
>>> see
>>> myself at fault for a stupid email I sent to his mother because I was
>>> truly
>>> upset at sommething he did that was really inappropriate and I don't
>>> want
>>> to
>>> share with this list.  I love Jason no matter what he does to me or
>>> whuaft
>>> I
>>> do to him.  All I can do is say that it's emotionally trying not having
>>> Jason near me, but this relationship is good when the winds of good
>>> fortune
>>> blow in our direction.  Arielle, Im glad at least you have a good
>>> boyfriend.
>>> Btw, for all of us, how can I make up with Jason's family without
>>> sending
>>> an
>>> email?  I really want to see him again, and supposedly his mom resents
>>> me
>>> for sending that email.  That's the only thing about the relationship
>>> that
>>> I
>>> don't like very much.
>>>> Beth
>>>>
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com
>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>> <nabs-l at nfbnet.org Date sent: Wed, 5 Sep 2012 23:01:32 -0600
>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] Long-Distance Dating
>>>>
>>>> Hi all,
>>>> Cindy, I generally agree with you about keeping this list to
>>>> blindness-related discussions. However, I do think long-distance
>>>> dating issues like the one Koby brought up are perhaps more relevant
>>>> to us blind students than they are for sighted students, especially
>>>> those of us who are involved in the NFB.  This is because, for many
>>>> reasons, some of us want to date other blind/NFB people and because
>>>> our community is so spread out, we may often end up in similar
>>>> situations where we have to decide if we want to enter a long-distance
>>>> relationship with someone we know from this community. So I'd like to
>>>> offer a brief response on-list and hope that others in similar
>>>> situations might find it helpful.
>>>> During college I was in a long-distance relationship with someone I
>>>> met through NFB for about a year. In hindsight I do not regret that
>>>> decision at all. I had fun, learned a lot and he and I are still
>>>> friends. I will also say that parts of it were emotionally very hard
>>>> to deal with--in my particular case an airplane ticket between my
>>>> location and his cost nearly $500 and we did not see each other for
>>>> five months, which was emotionally trying at times. I do not think I
>>>> would do another long-distance relationship and my current boyfriend
>>>> and I will be making an effort to ensure we will not have to be living
>>>> in separate places for any length of time. However, again, I enjoyed
>>>> the one experience I had overall and learned a lot from it. I think if
>>>> you and this girl really like each other and you can find a way to see
>>>> each other on a somewhat regular basis, there's no harm in trying and
>>>> you can always decide later on to just be friends. However, it is
>>>> something to give a little serious thought to before you make that
>>>> kind of commitment. You also want to talk with her and make sure that
>>>> the two of you have similar expectations for how serious of a
>>>> relationship this will be and how often you will be able to see each
>>>> other. It will be hard if one of you is much more enthused about the
>>>> relationship than the other. But if the two of you are generally on
>>>> the same page and are really committed to it, it can be fun.
>>>> Hope this helps,
>>>> Arielle
>>>>
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