[nabs-l] Question for you all

[Kaiti Shelton]

Hi,

Ashley is right on.  This is something that takes a lot more thought
and should be handled delicately.  You definitely don't want to burn
those bridges because you'll never know when you'll need mom or dad to
help out.  However, after you've worked it out, (and yes, talked with
the parent who will be more calm and understanding), then take it from
there.  You can also ask that parent what they think, assuming they
really are the calmer of the two.  Just make sure you fully think this
through before you act on it.

On 1/15/13, Ashley Bramlett <bookwormahb at earthlink.net> wrote:
> Koby,
> This is a very sensative situation and I suspect there is a lot to this
> story we don't know. You must have decided to move out for several reasons.
>
> I recall you posted in the past about your mother's wishes to control your
> bank account and take away your debit card.
>
> I suggest you tell them sooner than later. Talk to
> which ever parent you feel more open with. For me, its my dad; he will
> listen to me and my side of things without cutting me off or getting mad.
> He rarely gets upset; he is laid back.
> My mom is protective plus she wants things her way so its harder to come to
>
> her with suggestions or changes.
>
> Then tell the other parent. I f you want to get it over with, just say to
> them your decission.
> For instance say.
>
> "Mom and dad, there is a decision I've made because of blank. I am moving in
>
> with blank and blank lives in blank.
> I can be reached at blank address if you need me."
> Insert your own names and info where blank is written.
>
> I really think you should keep the lines of communication open. You never
> know when you might need their help especially for money since you are not
> working full time yet. living on your own is expensive which you will soon
> find out, even with a roommate sharing the costs.
>
> Good luck.
>
> Ashley
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Koby Cox
> Sent: Tuesday, January 15, 2013 9:47 PM
> To: nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [nabs-l] Question for you all
>
> Hello All,
> I'm going to move out of my parents house tomorrow and I'm going to move
> In with a roommate. However, I am unsure how to approach my parents
> regarding this. My mom wants me to get out however; my dad wants me to
> stay living under his roof until I'm 25 years old. Should I just go move
> In with my roommate tomorrow and then tell them that I'm not coming home
> once I'm over there or how should I handle this situation?
> Each one of you right back soon,
> Koby.
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Kaiti