[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Tue May 14 02:17:34 UTC 2013

It's great to know the dance staples, (The Macaraina, The YMCA, The
Electric Slide, the Cupid Shuffle, etc).  There's no shame in asking
friends how to do the dances, especially the more complicated ones,
but most just follow a pattern, have you turn in a 90 degree angle,
and repeat.  And of course the Cha Cha Slide is a give me dance that's
easy to learn.

It really depends on the event you're going to.  My prom played
nothing but explicit songs except for one slow song from the 90's and
We Are Young, but some of the college formals I've gone to have had a
really good mix of party music.  Sometimes you just have to consider
the audience of people that will be at the event and what the music
will probably be like.  Or, if you're not liking what you hear and
want something else, you can find the DJ and make a couple requests.

I'm not exactly sure how a belt and holster would go with a formal
gown.  In that case I'd probably just see if the guy wouldn't mind
putting the cane in his tux pocket as long as it will fit.  Another
potential issue I see with the holster is that the cane would
awkwardly flop around during dancing, which could get kind of
bothersome after a while.

On 5/13/13, Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at pccua.edu> wrote:
> The only dances I attended were school proms, and a dance at the NFB
> convention in 2010.
> The music was terrible, because they always selected all of that vulgar
> stuff.
> My girlfriend that I took to my senior prom wanted to dance to "Check
> Yourself," by Usher, but I wouldn't have it.
> When I dance, I want to have some Ernest Tubb, or some Bob Wills, (the
> latter for square-dancing.)
> Blessings, Joshua
> ________________________________________
> From: nabs-l [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of Darian Smith
> [dsmithnfb at gmail.com]
> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:58 PM
> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>
> Joshua,
>  Why you got to hate on rap music?  I mean, I didn't hate on your crummy
> country *smile*
>  Seriously though; do you  dislike dancing because  you  dislike the
> selection  of  music  at the venues  you have  frequented?  Or  you just
> don't like dancing period?
> On May 13, 2013, at 6:51 PM, Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at pccua.edu> wrote:
>
>> I thought I'd chyme in on this one!
>> I hate dancing, because the dances I've been to, had a DJ that only played
>> rap music.
>> Where's the classic Country when I need it?
>> Blessings, Joshua
>> ________________________________________
>> From: nabs-l [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of Darian Smith
>> [dsmithnfb at gmail.com]
>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:41 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>
>> You are just brave, I guess. hahaha
>> On May 13, 2013, at 6:22 PM, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com>
>> wrote:
>>
>>> Yes--and it's funny that everyone who responded to this thread before
>>> me has been male?
>>> Arielle
>>>
>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> Haha, indeed!  I obviously wasn't thinking very clearly...I suppose
>>>> that would work for any of us guys, if we didn't really care about
>>>> looking strange...just one of the reasons guys have it easier, I
>>>> guess.  :)
>>>>
>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
>>>>> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
>>>>> about it is kind of hilarious!
>>>>> Arielle
>>>>>
>>>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>> HI Arielle,
>>>>>> I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
>>>>>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
>>>>>> canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose
>>>>>> it's
>>>>>> an option.
>>>>>> Best,
>>>>>> Kirt
>>>>>>
>>>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar
>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at
>>>>>>> age
>>>>>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat mitzvahs,
>>>>>>> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid
>>>>>>> at
>>>>>>> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
>>>>>>> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten most
>>>>>>> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
>>>>>>> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of the
>>>>>>> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
>>>>>>> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me on
>>>>>>> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
>>>>>>> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing
>>>>>>> a
>>>>>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
>>>>>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
>>>>>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
>>>>>>> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some
>>>>>>> things,
>>>>>>> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
>>>>>>> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
>>>>>>> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
>>>>>>> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man,
>>>>>>> but
>>>>>>> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you
>>>>>>> may
>>>>>>> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
>>>>>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
>>>>>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
>>>>>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced.
>>>>>>> Now
>>>>>>> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd
>>>>>>> like
>>>>>>> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
>>>>>>> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
>>>>>>> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane, unless
>>>>>>> I
>>>>>>> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is an
>>>>>>> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
>>>>>>> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of
>>>>>>> some
>>>>>>> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near
>>>>>>> that
>>>>>>> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
>>>>>>> Arielle
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can dance a
>>>>>>>> little,
>>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at first
>>>>>>>> so
>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach
>>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>>> white
>>>>>>>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you don't
>>>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>>>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can do the
>>>>>>>> same
>>>>>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.
>>>>>>>> If
>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other
>>>>>>>> methods
>>>>>>>> will
>>>>>>>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and
>>>>>>>> match.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Darian
>>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
>>>>>>>> and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to
>>>>>>>> partake
>>>>>>>> in
>>>>>>>> alcoholic  beverages?
>>>>>>>> I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as
>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>> other
>>>>>>>> ways you might go about it?
>>>>>>>> Thanks Justin!
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
>>>>>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.
>>>>>>>>> Sometimes
>>>>>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to dance.
>>>>>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all
>>>>>>>>> possible;
>>>>>>>>> however, there are just times in social situations where you just
>>>>>>>>> have
>>>>>>>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and try
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out there
>>>>>>>>> with
>>>>>>>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you
>>>>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>>>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you
>>>>>>>>> jus
>>>>>>>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like
>>>>>>>>> dancing,
>>>>>>>>> or
>>>>>>>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or hopefully
>>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>>>>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.
>>>>>>>>> It
>>>>>>>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
>>>>>>>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
>>>>>>>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
>>>>>>>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an excuse
>>>>>>>>> not
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl to
>>>>>>>> teach
>>>>>>>> you.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
>>>>>>>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where
>>>>>>>>> dancing
>>>>>>>>> is
>>>>>>>>> a part of the atmosphere?
>>>>>>>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> dance?
>>>>>>>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
>>>>>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a
>>>>>>>>> lot
>>>>>>>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
>>>>>>>>> Thanks!
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Darian
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