[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Tue May 14 04:07:49 UTC 2013

Carley,
  From your replies to my honest question...yes, it did seem like
that's what you were implying.  :)

On 5/13/13, Kaiti Shelton <crazy4clarinet104 at gmail.com> wrote:
> It's great to know the dance staples, (The Macaraina, The YMCA, The
> Electric Slide, the Cupid Shuffle, etc).  There's no shame in asking
> friends how to do the dances, especially the more complicated ones,
> but most just follow a pattern, have you turn in a 90 degree angle,
> and repeat.  And of course the Cha Cha Slide is a give me dance that's
> easy to learn.
>
> It really depends on the event you're going to.  My prom played
> nothing but explicit songs except for one slow song from the 90's and
> We Are Young, but some of the college formals I've gone to have had a
> really good mix of party music.  Sometimes you just have to consider
> the audience of people that will be at the event and what the music
> will probably be like.  Or, if you're not liking what you hear and
> want something else, you can find the DJ and make a couple requests.
>
> I'm not exactly sure how a belt and holster would go with a formal
> gown.  In that case I'd probably just see if the guy wouldn't mind
> putting the cane in his tux pocket as long as it will fit.  Another
> potential issue I see with the holster is that the cane would
> awkwardly flop around during dancing, which could get kind of
> bothersome after a while.
>
> On 5/13/13, Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at pccua.edu> wrote:
>> The only dances I attended were school proms, and a dance at the NFB
>> convention in 2010.
>> The music was terrible, because they always selected all of that vulgar
>> stuff.
>> My girlfriend that I took to my senior prom wanted to dance to "Check
>> Yourself," by Usher, but I wouldn't have it.
>> When I dance, I want to have some Ernest Tubb, or some Bob Wills, (the
>> latter for square-dancing.)
>> Blessings, Joshua
>> ________________________________________
>> From: nabs-l [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of Darian Smith
>> [dsmithnfb at gmail.com]
>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:58 PM
>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>
>> Joshua,
>>  Why you got to hate on rap music?  I mean, I didn't hate on your crummy
>> country *smile*
>>  Seriously though; do you  dislike dancing because  you  dislike the
>> selection  of  music  at the venues  you have  frequented?  Or  you just
>> don't like dancing period?
>> On May 13, 2013, at 6:51 PM, Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at pccua.edu> wrote:
>>
>>> I thought I'd chyme in on this one!
>>> I hate dancing, because the dances I've been to, had a DJ that only
>>> played
>>> rap music.
>>> Where's the classic Country when I need it?
>>> Blessings, Joshua
>>> ________________________________________
>>> From: nabs-l [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of Darian Smith
>>> [dsmithnfb at gmail.com]
>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:41 PM
>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>
>>> You are just brave, I guess. hahaha
>>> On May 13, 2013, at 6:22 PM, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Yes--and it's funny that everyone who responded to this thread before
>>>> me has been male?
>>>> Arielle
>>>>
>>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>> Haha, indeed!  I obviously wasn't thinking very clearly...I suppose
>>>>> that would work for any of us guys, if we didn't really care about
>>>>> looking strange...just one of the reasons guys have it easier, I
>>>>> guess.  :)
>>>>>
>>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
>>>>>> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
>>>>>> about it is kind of hilarious!
>>>>>> Arielle
>>>>>>
>>>>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>> HI Arielle,
>>>>>>> I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
>>>>>>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
>>>>>>> canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose
>>>>>>> it's
>>>>>>> an option.
>>>>>>> Best,
>>>>>>> Kirt
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar
>>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>>> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at
>>>>>>>> age
>>>>>>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat
>>>>>>>> mitzvahs,
>>>>>>>> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid
>>>>>>>> at
>>>>>>>> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
>>>>>>>> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten
>>>>>>>> most
>>>>>>>> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
>>>>>>>> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of
>>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>>> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
>>>>>>>> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me
>>>>>>>> on
>>>>>>>> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
>>>>>>>> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is
>>>>>>>> doing
>>>>>>>> a
>>>>>>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
>>>>>>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
>>>>>>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
>>>>>>>> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some
>>>>>>>> things,
>>>>>>>> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
>>>>>>>> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
>>>>>>>> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
>>>>>>>> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man,
>>>>>>>> but
>>>>>>>> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you
>>>>>>>> may
>>>>>>>> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
>>>>>>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
>>>>>>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
>>>>>>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced.
>>>>>>>> Now
>>>>>>>> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd
>>>>>>>> like
>>>>>>>> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
>>>>>>>> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
>>>>>>>> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane,
>>>>>>>> unless
>>>>>>>> I
>>>>>>>> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is
>>>>>>>> an
>>>>>>>> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
>>>>>>>> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of
>>>>>>>> some
>>>>>>>> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near
>>>>>>>> that
>>>>>>>> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
>>>>>>>> Arielle
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can dance a
>>>>>>>>> little,
>>>>>>>>> and
>>>>>>>>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at
>>>>>>>>> first
>>>>>>>>> so
>>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach
>>>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>>>> white
>>>>>>>>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you
>>>>>>>>> don't
>>>>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>>>>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can do
>>>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>>>> same
>>>>>>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.
>>>>>>>>> If
>>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other
>>>>>>>>> methods
>>>>>>>>> will
>>>>>>>>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and
>>>>>>>>> match.
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
>>>>>>>>> and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to
>>>>>>>>> partake
>>>>>>>>> in
>>>>>>>>> alcoholic  beverages?
>>>>>>>>> I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as
>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> other
>>>>>>>>> ways you might go about it?
>>>>>>>>> Thanks Justin!
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
>>>>>>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>>>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.
>>>>>>>>>> Sometimes
>>>>>>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to
>>>>>>>>>> dance.
>>>>>>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all
>>>>>>>>>> possible;
>>>>>>>>>> however, there are just times in social situations where you just
>>>>>>>>>> have
>>>>>>>>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and
>>>>>>>>>> try
>>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out there
>>>>>>>>>> with
>>>>>>>>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you
>>>>>>>>>> drink,
>>>>>>>>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you
>>>>>>>>>> jus
>>>>>>>>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like
>>>>>>>>>> dancing,
>>>>>>>>>> or
>>>>>>>>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or
>>>>>>>>>> hopefully
>>>>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>>>>>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.
>>>>>>>>>> It
>>>>>>>>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
>>>>>>>>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
>>>>>>>>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
>>>>>>>>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an excuse
>>>>>>>>>> not
>>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl to
>>>>>>>>> teach
>>>>>>>>> you.
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>>>> Smith
>>>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>>>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
>>>>>>>>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where
>>>>>>>>>> dancing
>>>>>>>>>> is
>>>>>>>>>> a part of the atmosphere?
>>>>>>>>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how
>>>>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>>>>> dance?
>>>>>>>>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
>>>>>>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a
>>>>>>>>>> lot
>>>>>>>>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
>>>>>>>>>> Thanks!
>>>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>>> Darian
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