[nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?

Carly Mihalakis carlymih at comcast.net
Tue May 14 04:34:18 UTC 2013 

Hi, Kirt,

         Never did I mean to offend. especially YOU!
I don't believe  this message to me was all that clear either. At 
09:07 PM 5/13/2013, you wrote:
>Carley,
>   From your replies to my honest question...yes, it did seem like
>that's what you were implying.  :)
>
>On 5/13/13, Kaiti Shelton <crazy4clarinet104 at gmail.com> wrote:
> > It's great to know the dance staples, (The Macaraina, The YMCA, The
> > Electric Slide, the Cupid Shuffle, etc).  There's no shame in asking
> > friends how to do the dances, especially the more complicated ones,
> > but most just follow a pattern, have you turn in a 90 degree angle,
> > and repeat.  And of course the Cha Cha Slide is a give me dance that's
> > easy to learn.
> >
> > It really depends on the event you're going to.  My prom played
> > nothing but explicit songs except for one slow song from the 90's and
> > We Are Young, but some of the college formals I've gone to have had a
> > really good mix of party music.  Sometimes you just have to consider
> > the audience of people that will be at the event and what the music
> > will probably be like.  Or, if you're not liking what you hear and
> > want something else, you can find the DJ and make a couple requests.
> >
> > I'm not exactly sure how a belt and holster would go with a formal
> > gown.  In that case I'd probably just see if the guy wouldn't mind
> > putting the cane in his tux pocket as long as it will fit.  Another
> > potential issue I see with the holster is that the cane would
> > awkwardly flop around during dancing, which could get kind of
> > bothersome after a while.
> >
> > On 5/13/13, Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at pccua.edu> wrote:
> >> The only dances I attended were school proms, and a dance at the NFB
> >> convention in 2010.
> >> The music was terrible, because they always selected all of that vulgar
> >> stuff.
> >> My girlfriend that I took to my senior prom wanted to dance to "Check
> >> Yourself," by Usher, but I wouldn't have it.
> >> When I dance, I want to have some Ernest Tubb, or some Bob Wills, (the
> >> latter for square-dancing.)
> >> Blessings, Joshua
> >> ________________________________________
> >> From: nabs-l [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of Darian Smith
> >> [dsmithnfb at gmail.com]
> >> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:58 PM
> >> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
> >>
> >> Joshua,
> >>  Why you got to hate on rap music?  I mean, I didn't hate on your crummy
> >> country *smile*
> >>  Seriously though; do you  dislike dancing because  you  dislike the
> >> selection  of  music  at the venues  you have  frequented?  Or  you just
> >> don't like dancing period?
> >> On May 13, 2013, at 6:51 PM, Joshua Lester <JLester8462 at pccua.edu> wrote:
> >>
> >>> I thought I'd chyme in on this one!
> >>> I hate dancing, because the dances I've been to, had a DJ that only
> >>> played
> >>> rap music.
> >>> Where's the classic Country when I need it?
> >>> Blessings, Joshua
> >>> ________________________________________
> >>> From: nabs-l [nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] on behalf of Darian Smith
> >>> [dsmithnfb at gmail.com]
> >>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:41 PM
> >>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
> >>>
> >>> You are just brave, I guess. hahaha
> >>> On May 13, 2013, at 6:22 PM, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com>
> >>> wrote:
> >>>
> >>>> Yes--and it's funny that everyone who responded to this thread before
> >>>> me has been male?
> >>>> Arielle
> >>>>
> >>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
> >>>>> Haha, indeed!  I obviously wasn't thinking very clearly...I suppose
> >>>>> that would work for any of us guys, if we didn't really care about
> >>>>> looking strange...just one of the reasons guys have it easier, I
> >>>>> guess.  :)
> >>>>>
> >>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >>>>>> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing anything
> >>>>>> that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress? Just thinking
> >>>>>> about it is kind of hilarious!
> >>>>>> Arielle
> >>>>>>
> >>>>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
> >>>>>>> HI Arielle,
> >>>>>>> I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
> >>>>>>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for telescopic
> >>>>>>> canes?  I think they look kind of silly, personally but I suppose
> >>>>>>> it's
> >>>>>>> an option.
> >>>>>>> Best,
> >>>>>>> Kirt
> >>>>>>>
> >>>>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >>>>>>>> Hi all,
> >>>>>>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar
> >>>>>>>> and
> >>>>>>>> bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that happen at
> >>>>>>>> age
> >>>>>>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat
> >>>>>>>> mitzvahs,
> >>>>>>>> so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially looking stupid
> >>>>>>>> at
> >>>>>>>> quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people taught me how to dance,
> >>>>>>>> though I can't remember who and honestly, by now I've forgotten
> >>>>>>>> most
> >>>>>>>> of my formal instruction. I do remember being told that dancing is
> >>>>>>>> mainly about having fun and just moving your body to the beat of
> >>>>>>>> the
> >>>>>>>> music. I'm sure I don't dance perfectly but I've always had fun and
> >>>>>>>> nobody has ever criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me
> >>>>>>>> on
> >>>>>>>> the dance floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to
> >>>>>>>> worry too much about how you appear to others. If the group is
> >>>>>>>> doing
> >>>>>>>> a
> >>>>>>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
> >>>>>>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
> >>>>>>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink or
> >>>>>>>> snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some
> >>>>>>>> things,
> >>>>>>>> you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of dancing
> >>>>>>>> experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and tell you
> >>>>>>>> what's good and what you could change or improve on. Also, slow
> >>>>>>>> dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to follow the man,
> >>>>>>>> but
> >>>>>>>> if you're a guy and want to learn how to slow-dance with women you
> >>>>>>>> may
> >>>>>>>> want to get a little bit of formal instruction.
> >>>>>>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
> >>>>>>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
> >>>>>>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced.
> >>>>>>>> Now
> >>>>>>>> I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and I'd
> >>>>>>>> like
> >>>>>>>> to be able to keep track of my cane myself without having it on the
> >>>>>>>> dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event I usually am not
> >>>>>>>> wearing clothes that allow for storage of a telescoping cane,
> >>>>>>>> unless
> >>>>>>>> I
> >>>>>>>> bring a purse and keep it on me while dancing, which I suppose is
> >>>>>>>> an
> >>>>>>>> option. I'm curious if others have found good ways to manage this
> >>>>>>>> issue. The best solution I've used is to find a sound landmark of
> >>>>>>>> some
> >>>>>>>> sort like the bar or music stand and put my cane in a corner near
> >>>>>>>> that
> >>>>>>>> spot. But this doesn't work as well in large venues.
> >>>>>>>> Arielle
> >>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
> >>>>>>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool.  That works.  Longg as he can dance a
> >>>>>>>>> little,
> >>>>>>>>> and
> >>>>>>>>> is a good teacher.  Tell him to move you your body for you at
> >>>>>>>>> first
> >>>>>>>>> so
> >>>>>>>>> you
> >>>>>>>>> can get the movement.  In japah, that is how the black belts teach
> >>>>>>>>> the
> >>>>>>>>> white
> >>>>>>>>> belts.  That is how my instructor instructs me.  Also, if you
> >>>>>>>>> don't
> >>>>>>>>> drink,
> >>>>>>>>> then that is fine too.  That is just a trick I use.  You can do
> >>>>>>>>> the
> >>>>>>>>> same
> >>>>>>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same way.
> >>>>>>>>> If
> >>>>>>>>> you
> >>>>>>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other
> >>>>>>>>> methods
> >>>>>>>>> will
> >>>>>>>>> work just fine.  You just got to mix and match my man.  Mix and
> >>>>>>>>> match.
> >>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
> >>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
> >>>>>>>>> Darian
> >>>>>>>>> Smith
> >>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
> >>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >>>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
> >>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>> Hi listers:  should gender matter  in who teaches you?
> >>>>>>>>> and  what would you suggest if you cannot or  choose not to
> >>>>>>>>> partake
> >>>>>>>>> in
> >>>>>>>>> alcoholic  beverages?
> >>>>>>>>> I think these are very interesting points indeed,  Just curious as
> >>>>>>>>> to
> >>>>>>>>> other
> >>>>>>>>> ways you might go about it?
> >>>>>>>>> Thanks Justin!
> >>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>> Darian
> >>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
> >>>>>>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
> >>>>>>>>> wrote:
> >>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.
> >>>>>>>>>> Sometimes
> >>>>>>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to
> >>>>>>>>>> dance.
> >>>>>>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all
> >>>>>>>>>> possible;
> >>>>>>>>>> however, there are just times in social situations where you just
> >>>>>>>>>> have
> >>>>>>>>>> to shake a leg.  Do the best you can.  Just move your hips and
> >>>>>>>>>> try
> >>>>>>>>>> to
> >>>>>>>>>> keep up with the beat.  There are a lot of other people out there
> >>>>>>>>>> with
> >>>>>>>>>> you who can't dance either.  They also look terrible.  If you
> >>>>>>>>>> drink,
> >>>>>>>>>> it loosen's you up just a little.  It doen't make you better, you
> >>>>>>>>>> jus
> >>>>>>>>>> think you are.  Smile just a little even if you don't like
> >>>>>>>>>> dancing,
> >>>>>>>>>> or
> >>>>>>>>>> aren't very good at it.  The appearance of enjoyment, or
> >>>>>>>>>> hopefully
> >>>>>>>>>> you
> >>>>>>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
> >>>>>>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.
> >>>>>>>>>> It
> >>>>>>>>>> helps.  I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I have
> >>>>>>>>>> learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the dance
> >>>>>>>>>> floor.  I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go out with a
> >>>>>>>>>> group of people because I am using trips to the bar as an excuse
> >>>>>>>>>> not
> >>>>>>>>>> to
> >>>>>>>>> dance.  Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl to
> >>>>>>>>> teach
> >>>>>>>>> you.
> >>>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
> >>>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
> >>>>>>>>>> Darian
> >>>>>>>>>> Smith
> >>>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
> >>>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
> >>>>>>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
> >>>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>>> Hi all,
> >>>>>>>>>> Please  excuse  the slight 80's song reference,  but I am curious
> >>>>>>>>>> about how you all go about attending social functions where
> >>>>>>>>>> dancing
> >>>>>>>>>> is
> >>>>>>>>>> a part of the atmosphere?
> >>>>>>>>>> Do you decide to not  take part in it because you don't know how
> >>>>>>>>>> to
> >>>>>>>>>> dance?
> >>>>>>>>>> are you too shy?   Do you just get out there regardless?
> >>>>>>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance  if you can't do what a
> >>>>>>>>>> lot
> >>>>>>>>>> of folks do and watch it  on television  or the internet?
> >>>>>>>>>> Thanks!
> >>>>>>>>>>
> >>>>>>>>>> Darian
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