[nabs-l] Can dance if I want to?
Wasif, Zunaira
Zunaira.Wasif at dbs.fldoe.org
Tue May 14 14:02:36 UTC 2013
My opinion is a little different on this one. I think its really
important to dance correctly. Even little things can make you look
awkward. Maybe I'm a little perfectionistic in this area, but there are
a lot of very subtle moves involved in dancing. If it doesn't come
naturally to you, you need to really work on it. I've seen a lot of
visually impaired people that have no idea what's going on. On the
other hand, I've seen a lot of people that are doing just fine.
Zunaira
-----Original Message-----
From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Arielle
Silverman
Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 11:36 PM
To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
I really want to hear from more women about whether the purse-cane stash
is a viable option.
Arielle
On 5/13/13, Darian Smith <dsmithnfb at gmail.com> wrote:
> true,
> In some cases though, I feel like you are going to have to get
someone
> with vision to show you some dances like "Gangnam style" or Douggie"
> It's not critical if you don't know, but is always helpful If the
> song comes on and you want to dance to it (darn catchy songs)., On
> May 13, 2013, at 7:00 PM, Kaiti Shelton <crazy4clarinet104 at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
>> Hi all,
>>
>> I've been to quite a few dancing functions, (wedding receptions,
>> homecomings and prom, formals and semiformals at my university, etc).
>> I think as long as you're moving to the beat and you're having a good
>> time it's not a huge deal. A lot of the time the other people around
>> you will be so caught up in their own dancing or socializing that
>> they won't really take much notice if you're doing something slightly
>> unconventional. When in doubt you could always step from side to
>> side and just get your shoulders into it. For guys leading a slow
>> dance mainly involves putting your hands on the girl's waist or
>> shoulders, (whichever she's comfortable with), and just swaying as
>> you step in a circle. It can be a little awkward the first time you
>> do it, but it is for most guys from what I've seen.
>>
>> Guys have the advantage of having deep pockets. When I went to prom
>> my boyfriend had a straight cane and I had a folding one, so we left
>> his at our table and I lead with him holding onto my elbow until we
>> got to the dance floor, then I folded up and he put the cane in his
>> tux pocket. At the last formal we went to I had a telescopic cane
>> and a purse which handily enough had metal rings between the top of
>> the purse and the ends of the straps. I was able to slide the cane
>> through the loops and because the rings were the right size it was a
>> pretty secure fit. It was kind of annoying wearing the purse after a
>> while though, and I think I eventually just put it on the table with
>> my coat and went without it. I strategically chose my table, so it
>> wasn't really an issue of knowing where to go to find it when I
>> needed to during the dance.
>>
>> I've been trying to figure out better ways to go about stowing the
>> cane myself, especially when wearing formalwear like a prom dress as
>> opposed to just a nicer homecoming-style one. I like taking smaller
>> canes that fold up or telescope for situations like this, so I
>> probably won't ever bring a straight cane to something like this and
>> save eit for more day-to-day use. I think just finding n easily
>> locatable spot is key not just for your cane, but so you can find all
>> your other stuff when your done dancing.
>>
>> On 5/13/13, Darian Smith <dsmithnfb at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Yes that does sound pretty funny, now that you mention it, Arielle.
>>> But it's not like guys (not many of them at least), rock a purse
>>> so... hahahaha On May 13, 2013, at 6:12 PM, Arielle Silverman
>>> <arielle71 at gmail.com>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> Right, but if I'm going dancing I'm not going to be wearing
>>>> anything that holds a belt! How can you stow a cane on a dress?
>>>> Just thinking about it is kind of hilarious!
>>>> Arielle
>>>>
>>>> On 5/13/13, Kirt Manwaring <kirt.crazydude at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>> HI Arielle,
>>>>> I've seen those funky cane holster thingies that attach to a belt
>>>>> loop or something, maybe there are versions somewhere for
>>>>> telescopic canes? I think they look kind of silly, personally but
>>>>> I suppose it's an option.
>>>>> Best,
>>>>> Kirt
>>>>>
>>>>> On 5/13/13, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>> I was fortunate to grow up among many Jewish kids who all had bar
>>>>>> and bat mitzvahs, (Jewish celebrations of coming-of-age that
>>>>>> happen at age
>>>>>> 12 or 13) and most had dance parties for their bar and bat
>>>>>> mitzvahs, so I became comfortable with dancing and potentially
>>>>>> looking stupid at quite a young age. :) I'm sure some people
>>>>>> taught me how to dance, though I can't remember who and honestly,
>>>>>> by now I've forgotten most of my formal instruction. I do
>>>>>> remember being told that dancing is mainly about having fun and
>>>>>> just moving your body to the beat of the music. I'm sure I don't
>>>>>> dance perfectly but I've always had fun and nobody has ever
>>>>>> criticized my dancing or not wanted to be with me on the dance
>>>>>> floor because of my dancing. So I don't think you need to worry
>>>>>> too much about how you appear to others. If the group is doing a
>>>>>> line dance like the YMCA, and you don't know the moves for that
>>>>>> particular dance, there's no problem with sitting it out or just
>>>>>> moving off the dance floor to talk to people, or go get a drink
>>>>>> or snack or whatever, during that song. If you want to learn some
>>>>>> things, you could ask a friend or family member who has lots of
>>>>>> dancing experience to teach you or just to watch your moves and
>>>>>> tell you what's good and what you could change or improve on.
>>>>>> Also, slow dancing is easy for girls who are just supposed to
>>>>>> follow the man, but if you're a guy and want to learn how to
>>>>>> slow-dance with women you may want to get a little bit of formal
>>>>>> instruction.
>>>>>> One thing I haven't quite figured out yet is where to put my cane
>>>>>> while dancing. When I was younger I would just go with a sighted
>>>>>> friend and stash my cane at a table while my friend and I danced.
>>>>>> Now I'm less comfortable being with the same person all night and
>>>>>> I'd like to be able to keep track of my cane myself without
>>>>>> having it on the dance floor with me. If I go to a dancing event
>>>>>> I usually am not wearing clothes that allow for storage of a
>>>>>> telescoping cane, unless I bring a purse and keep it on me while
>>>>>> dancing, which I suppose is an option. I'm curious if others have
>>>>>> found good ways to manage this issue. The best solution I've used
>>>>>> is to find a sound landmark of some sort like the bar or music
>>>>>> stand and put my cane in a corner near that spot. But this
>>>>>> doesn't work as well in large venues.
>>>>>> Arielle
>>>>>>
>>>>>> On 5/12/13, justin williams <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>>>>> Get a guy then; it's cool. That works. Longg as he can dance a
>>>>>>> little, and is a good teacher. Tell him to move you your body
>>>>>>> for you at first so you can get the movement. In japah, that is
>>>>>>> how the black belts teach the white belts. That is how my
>>>>>>> instructor instructs me. Also, if you don't drink, then that is
>>>>>>> fine too. That is just a trick I use. You can do the same
>>>>>>> thing with a cup of water, or a soda; it should work the same
way.
>>>>>>> If
>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>> don't want to hang onto a cup like that, then any of the other
>>>>>>> methods will work just fine. You just got to mix and match my
>>>>>>> man. Mix and match.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>> Darian Smith
>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 8:10 PM
>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Hi listers: should gender matter in who teaches you?
>>>>>>> and what would you suggest if you cannot or choose not to
>>>>>>> partake in alcoholic beverages?
>>>>>>> I think these are very interesting points indeed, Just curious
>>>>>>> as to other ways you might go about it?
>>>>>>> Thanks Justin!
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Darian
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> On May 12, 2013, at 3:59 PM, justin williams
>>>>>>> <justin.williams2 at gmail.com>
>>>>>>> wrote:
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Get a friend, preferably a girl to teach you how to dance.
>>>>>>>> Sometimes
>>>>>>>> keeping a drink in your hand will give you an excuse not to
dance.
>>>>>>>> Personally, I avoid dance clubs like the plague if at all
>>>>>>>> possible; however, there are just times in social situations
>>>>>>>> where you just have to shake a leg. Do the best you can. Just
>>>>>>>> move your hips and try to keep up with the beat. There are a
>>>>>>>> lot of other people out there with you who can't dance either.
>>>>>>>> They also look terrible. If you drink, it loosen's you up just
>>>>>>>> a little. It doen't make you better, you jus think you are.
>>>>>>>> Smile just a little even if you don't like dancing, or aren't
>>>>>>>> very good at it. The appearance of enjoyment, or hopefully you
>>>>>>>> are actually enjoying your self, lets everyone see that you are
>>>>>>>> confident; you can't dance and you know it, but you don't care.
>>>>>>>> It helps. I feel you man; I'm in the same boat as you accept I
>>>>>>>> have learned a few tricks to fake it until I can get off of the
>>>>>>>> dance floor. I get fairly drunk on nights like that if I go
>>>>>>>> out with a group of people because I am using trips to the bar
>>>>>>>> as an excuse not to
>>>>>>> dance. Remember, if possible, get a friend, especially a girl
>>>>>>> to teach you.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>> From: nabs-l [mailto:nabs-l-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of
>>>>>>>> Darian Smith
>>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 13, 2013 6:36 PM
>>>>>>>> To: National Association of Blind Students mailing list
>>>>>>>> Subject: [nabs-l] CanI dance if I want to?
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Hi all,
>>>>>>>> Please excuse the slight 80's song reference, but I am
>>>>>>>> curious about how you all go about attending social functions
>>>>>>>> where dancing is a part of the atmosphere?
>>>>>>>> Do you decide to not take part in it because you don't know
>>>>>>>> how to dance?
>>>>>>>> are you too shy? Do you just get out there regardless?
>>>>>>>> On Dancing, how do you learn how to dance if you can't do what
>>>>>>>> a lot of folks do and watch it on television or the internet?
>>>>>>>> Thanks!
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Darian
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