[nabs-l] family problems dealing with blindness

[Aaron]

Have you tried moving out? About going to school? What about going to a Voke rehab place in your area? You need to do something. I was fortunate enough to have loving and caring family but understood that my blindness was not an invitation nor did they tell me it was and told me that I could do anything that I set my mind to.

Thanks,
Aaron
Turning Disability into Ability

> On Jun 2, 2015, at 10:52 AM, andrew edgcumbe via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Hi all  I  just have been having family difficaulties i have documented
> them as a whole it may not look blindness right away but i get into that
> later in the message though.
> 
> this happened a month ago in april this happened. but anyway my parents
> and i got into bit of a cafuffal and things. i got bit jumpy or whatever
> but that is all but anyway my dad all of a sudden tells me to get out of
> the room very sternly. anyway i did not leave the room but anyway he then
> threatened to call the police on me. i still did not leave the room until
> he said he ment what he said about that threat. this was couple hours
> before i was going out with a close friend. but anyway when she came just
> before we left my mom said my dad wanted to talk to my friend. We just told
> her we did not have time to talk and we left she said she had a gut
> instinct that something was not right or was going to happen or something
> like that before she got to my place i was just pretty scared my friend
> said she couldn't blame me for being scared as she would be to if that was
> said to her. I felt everything from a evil presence to anything else in
> that house. My dad can be the type who does raise his voice and shut people
> down instead of listening to them things like that. I been babied and
> things by my parents and things. my dad treats me like a kid just his tone
> of voice when he asks things do you know what a porcky pine is for example
> it was like he tells me stuff i already know. my parents tend to treat me
> like i have a disability and things i will state here that i don't consider
> blindness a disability only an impairment. but my parents treat me like i
> can't do anything and things like that he tends to concentrate on blindness
> both parents do that is and does not think on the abilities. my parents are
> just very controlling when it comes to these things and it just gets me
> down and things. he has said to me when i told him to stop treat me like a
> blind man his return fraise is this well you are blind and things like
> that. again i don't consider blindness a disability i consider it an
> impairment only. i just end up feeling very discouraged and feeling down
> and things like that. i end up feeling hopless and i feel like i am very
> iceolated and i feel very trapped at home as i am not aloud to do what i
> want to do and things. i just am very tired of my parents in fact i feel
> down because of being so trapped and things. my parents don't listen or
> anything to me and when i tell somebody mom or dad how i feel they snap
> back at me very quickly that is why i can't go to them.  I am finding that
> they have their set way of what they want to do or want me to do for
> example things like that.  I am 28 years old there has been things i feel
> that have not been shown to me my parents are not grounded in  nfb
> philosaphy they may say a blind person is capable   on the other end there
> is this mind set they are not showing me that not showing me that i am
> capable.   I know everybody has not been through these type of experiences
> but there seems to be fair number that have had trouble with parents that
> are in the blind community.
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