[nabs-l] How to handle creepy blind-obsessed people

[mahmud rizvi]

Harassment of this sort is pretty serious. The messages he has sent, this story you have told is enough. You need to talk with a staff member on campus. The situation could escalate had all the administration will say then is "why didn't you tell us sooner?" As a guy you would think I wouldn't face such situations but I have. I've learned to tell a staff member ASAP. Your goal at college is to get your degree and become a well rounded adult. You shouldn't have to deal with this. I'm sorry about your situation. 

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> On Oct 18, 2015, at 11:41 PM, Kaiti Shelton via nabs-l <nabs-l at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Hi all,
> 
> I'm sure you're wondering about the strange subject line, but the
> situation is exactly how it sounds.  This guy started pestering a
> friend of mine who is also blind on campus, and since we've started a
> disability organization and have been seen together and he saw my cane
> he's now starting to do it to me.  Apparently he has some neurological
> problems that are supposedly controled, but the odd behavior isn't
> something that we're aware of that can be related to seizure
> disorders.  He has admitted to my friend that he has a thing for girls
> with disabilities, and since meeting her has been fascinated by blind
> chicks.  It was a little disturbing to me when he started sending me
> really forward facebook messages and mentioned my friend, and when I
> asked her about it the next day she half-jokingly referred to him as
> "Her stalker," and told me she'd fill me in further in private, which
> she did.  He seems fairly harmless for the time being and she's so far
> been successful in just ignoring him or not giving information, and
> she certainly made it known that she does not return the liking he
> says he has for her, but I still am creeped out a bit by the pattern
> of going after blind chicks.  Obviously I haven't given him any
> information and have mostly ignored his messages he's been sending me,
> but I'm a little hesitant to just block him because he'll probably
> show up to the club meetings now that he knows about them.
> 
> I've been advised by a male friend of mine to just tell him to back
> off and leave me alone, but I'll admit that as a woman who is fairly
> identifyable as the only one with a cane and who is unable to see him
> coming I don't know if that is the best approach or not.  He hasn't
> done anything at this point that is reportable, so I don't quite know
> what the best approach would be.  I am pretty creeped out how he
> targets disabled women and blind women in particular now, but that
> isn't a crime in and of itself.  Thankfully I had class the time when
> he showed up to our table hours for our awareness week on campus, and
> he didn't show up to the described movie night we just had like he
> said he was going to.  I usually have chapter meetings for another
> organization directly after the club meetings so I do have an excuse
> to leave club by a certain time, but I'm not thrilled by the idea of
> this dude showing up and being weird with my friend and I while we're
> trying to get work done, or meeting me in person and making it harder
> for him to miss me when I'm going about my business on campus.
> 
> Don't get me wrong---I totally have ignored creepy online people
> before in the few instances where they have sent me strange facebook
> chats or what have you, but the fact that this is a sighted dude on my
> campus who is going after a specific disability is really creepy to me
> and I do not feel comfortable about it.  Advice?  Also, I do
> understand that this topic kind of verges on adult conversations, but
> please keep your responses G or PG as I do not intend to break any
> list guidelines and nothing grossly inappropriate has happened here.
> 
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