[nagdu] Unsettled dog with my friends

Mon Dec 5 03:46:44 UTC 2011

Great stuff! Sounds like you are doing the right things to help your 
designer dog accept the change in roles between the two of you and 
settled down to the new pack order. /smile/ I do find that with the 
changes in our pack, I also seem to need to "lay down the law" with 
Mitzi once or twice, which makes her happy as much as the added 
attention, play, butt kissing, stuff like that. /smile/ Well, our 
current pack change is the addition of a young puppy, so I find that 
once a day Mitzi will try to lead the young one into trouble, then take 
great delight in being diverted or redirected firmly or whatever it is 
we did about the unwanted behavior when she was a rebellious young 
thing. Very strange, but there it is. /smile/ Of course, both DD and I 
have done a lot of the positive stuff with and for Mitzi, and I do make 
time to spend some "us" time with her, while giving the pup "us" time 
with her dad... Whatever works I guess.

Enjoy, and let us know what you discover about your designer dog. /smile/

Tami

On 12/04/2011 04:54 PM, Wayne Merritt wrote:
> Thanks for the initial thoughts. We've been seeing and communicating
> with each other for 3 months. It seems like Gucci's misbehavior has
> decreased in recent times, but I have also made a point to acknowledge
> Gucci while I was snuggling. My girlfriend has also acknowledged gucci
> too in these situations. We have also played with gucci with her
> favorite jingle ball, and a few times my girlfriend and gucci have
> played when I was out of the room.
>
> Thanks for the responses so far. Any others that want to offer ideas
> are welcome too.
>
> Wayne
>
> On 12/4/11, Nicole B. Torcolini at Home<ntorcolini at wavecable.com>  wrote:
>> Consistent with what others have said on this list, I think that it is just
>> jealousy. My family pet dog, although by no means a guide dog, exhibits the
>> same behavior in a much more extreme way, barking and whining loudly anyone
>> time anyone tries to hug or kiss. My suggestion is to first reassure her
>> that you are still paying attention to her by talking to her or petting her
>> when you can and also telling her to stop the behavior and praising when she
>> does stop or does not do it at all.
>>
>> HTH,
>> Nicole
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Shannon Dyer"<solsticesinger at gmail.com>
>> To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users"
>> <nagdu at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Sunday, December 04, 2011 3:49 PM
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] Unsettled dog with my friends
>>
>>
>>> I don't think this is uncommon at all. My Caroline dog is jealous of my
>>> current partner, and my first dog definitely had some issues with my ex. In
>>>
>>> a lot of ways, I think it's difficult for some dogs to get used to their
>>> "pack" expanding. Dogs that come into an already-established relationship
>>> don't seem to have as much difficulty, but, if the relationship comes after
>>>
>>> the dog, this can sometimes be problematic.
>>>
>>> Caroline is very clingy in general. I don't reward this behavior, but
>>> neither do I punish her for it, as it's just a part of her personality.
>>> However, if she does something abnormal for her such as barking, whining,
>>> trying to physically come between myself and my partner etc., I will
>>> reprimand her. I also make sure that she and I still have a lot of bonding
>>>
>>> time. I may spend extra time grooming her, or take her for a longer walk.
>>> Just something to let her know that things are still consistent, even
>>> though there's a new human in the picture.
>>>
>>> Shannon and Caroline
>>>
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>>> On Dec 4, 2011, at 3:17 PM, Wayne Merritt wrote:
>>>
>>>> Greetings all. For those that don't know me and who may be new to the
>>>> list, I am in Austin, Texas, with my second Seeing Eye dog, a German
>>>> Shepherd named Gucci. She is 6 and I've had her for 3 years. Anyway,
>>>> my question is regarding how Gucci behaves when my girlfriend is with
>>>> us. Gucci can't fit into the foot space in the front seat of my
>>>> girlfriend's car, so I put her in the back seat. Whenever we are in
>>>> the car and Gucci is in the back, she really whimpers and whines when
>>>> I am holding hands or snuggling with my girlfriend. She usually
>>>> whimpers quietly wen I am in a car that slows down, but it seems like
>>>> the whimpering and whining picks up a few knotches in my girlfriend's
>>>> car. Gucci also jumps around quite a bit at times in the car. She is
>>>> equally whiny and whimpery when I am sitting with my girlfriend on the
>>>> couch and we are doing more snuggling or holding hands. This has never
>>>> happened before, at least not to this degree, and I am not sure what
>>>> to do about it. I get the feeling that gucci is not used to my
>>>> girlfriend yet and there may be some anxiety on Gucci's part that I'm
>>>> not paying as much attention to her. Has anyone experienced this
>>>> before and if so how did you fix the problem? Now that I am writing
>>>> this, I am wondering if I should call the school and see what they
>>>> recommend. I haven't had to call the school that much in the last 3
>>>> years or so, but this might qualify.
>>>>
>>>> Thanks bunch in advance,
>>>> Wayne Merritt
>>>>
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