[nagdu] NAGDU: Well meaning people

Fri Mar 4 17:57:33 UTC 2011

Lisa,

Oh, the wonderfully helpful ones who aren't.  /lol/  I honestly find them
way more distracting and irritating than honest-to-goodness rude snotty
types just because the helpers are being so gosh darn nice that I want to be
nice in return even though I really need them to go away and let me get on
with my life.  /lol/  Used to make me crazy!

If you figure out how to pull off a ridiculously courteous blow off, do
tell!  I haven't managed to get myself caught up in an endless ordeal of
sticky-sweet niceness for awhile now, but I'm sure I will again.  Probably
just as soon as I can managed to start squeezing enough out of my budget for
a bus pass and start heading out into the world by my lonesome without my
sighted manly caretaker.  /lol/  Going around with sighted women, I still
get helped a lot and interfered with in little ways a lot...  But having a
big strong man to look after me in the big wide world just seems to set
everyone's mind at ease that it's all under control and the blind woman is
safe from herself!  My inner feminist is not pleased by this, but I do get
more done and am quite spoiled by it.  /grin/

Tami Smith-Kinney

-----Original Message-----
From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
Of Lisa Irving
Sent: Thursday, March 03, 2011 8:50 PM
To: NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users
Subject: [nagdu] NAGDU: Well meaning people

Hi Julie,

Today, I had two instances where well meaning people kept correcting me and 
telling me that my dog was moving in the wrong direction. The first 
individual was a deputy at the court house. Despite my gentle insistance 
that I didn't need accompaniment to where I was going, his superior  told 
him to go with me. I figured I'd be polite and also sort of blow him off. My

dog was taking me along the side of the hall; absolutely correct. He took me

to a bench; not a big deal as I've recently taught him to find bus benches. 
It went on and on until we reached the office. All along I said in a chipper

voice that my dog was correct in his judgments. Spoken words fell on deaf 
ears. The second situation was with a friend who has spent a decent amount 
of time around guide dogs. I knew he meant well. I explained the same thing 
to him-- my guide dog was correct in his judgments. I also cut my new dog 
guide some slack too. I really don't want to go to most every pole and most 
every bench. However, I know he's trying to please me. And, I also want him 
to know what a very good dog he is.

Lisa and Bernie
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Julie J" <julielj at neb.rr.com>
To: "NAGDU Mailing List,the National Association of Guide Dog Users" 
<nagdu at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, March 03, 2011 5:22 AM
Subject: Re: [nagdu] Do you ever get angry with your dogs 
andhowtocontroleit?

> You know just yesterday I was leaving a coffee shop with friends and Monty

> refused to go forward.  He does this sometimes and it aggravates me to no 
> end.  Usually it is because there is something that he feels requires 
> caution about half a block ahead.   All I need to do is take the leash in 
> my right hand, gesture forward with it and give him a bit of 
> encouragement. The entire event from stopping to going again occurs in 
> about a second and a half.   Yesterday though, someone passing says, "oh, 
> he's in training." That really aggravates me.  It's like he's supposed to 
> be perfect every. single. second.  And honestly I don't consider stopping 
> a mistake, it's just being overly cautious
>
> I walked to the end of the block with my friends.  Monty stopped at the 
> curb.  I told him to turn left so we could line up with where we needed to

> cross.  One of the friends says, "he didn't turn."  Like that was a 
> mistake. He isn't supposed to turn.  He does sometimes if it's a very 
> familiar route, but I don't expect it.  Still it aggravates me that we are

> constantly judged and found lacking.
>
> Both very small things and not worth my energy.  I know, but I do think 
> that sometimes it's good to vent.  It keeps me sane and it helps others 
> know they are perfectly normal for getting irritated too. *smile*
>
> Julie
>
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