[nagdu] I did it!

Wed Jul 11 20:13:17 UTC 2012

Shannon,
To avoid all this, have you considered in-home training? Some schools offer it.
Juanita and Anise

On 7/11/12, Shannon Wells <oldtimechristian at gmail.com> wrote:
> I didn't say anything about my husband's family, because they do not factor
> in. They are not available and I wouldn't want most of them to be. My
> husband isn't the bad guy and I never said he was. His biggest concern about
> taking the time off is that there is no one there at present to fill his
> shoes, and he would have a huge amount of catching up to do. I'm not trying
> to sound like I'm praying he will do what I want. I guess it came across
> that way, because right now, that is the only solution I can see. I get
> impatient sometimes, so I'm sorry if it came across that my husband and I
> were arguing, because we're not. No one is mad at anyone. I believe he
> understands how important it is to me, and I understand how important his
> job is to him. The thing I keep telling myself is if it's meant to be, it
> will and if it's not, it won't.
> Shannon Wells
> On Jul 11, 2012, at 10:19 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>
>> Shannon,
>> Prayer works, though it sounds like you are praying that your husband do
>> what you want and that sort of thing never ends well.
>> Staying home for two or three weeks is a long time. It's not like a day or
>> two with a sick kid.
>> It's difficult on coworkers and on any work projects he's doing. It's very
>> difficult to catch up when he gets back.
>> His boss may give him the time under FMLA though that depends on if his
>> company offers that type of leave.
>> If his company does offer FMLA, he will need to think about whether or not
>> this is a good use of that leave. He may feel that it is not.
>>
>>
>> You mention having a sister that may keep the girls. That will also be
>> disruptive. You still won't be around and they will know that. It's really
>> no different then a nanny or even a daycare.  Depending on their ages,
>> getting them in for a couple weeks will be a piece of cake. Daycares do
>> some neat stuff with kids these days so they may really enjoy it.  Either
>> way, you won't be home. This isn't worth hanging your husband up as the
>> bad guy.
>>
>> You did not mention his family as an option for looking after the girls.
>> Any reason why not?
>>
>> Be very careful with the argument "If you aren't willing to stay home, you
>> shouldn't have kids".  The kids are here and unless I'm missing something,
>> it sounds like he's an involved dad.  He just isn't doing what you want
>> when you want.  Using this argument in this situation is unfair and
>> unkind.  He may need or want to be at work just as badly as you need or
>> want a dog.
>>
>> Also, be careful too with your dog application.  Fine to go ahead and fill
>> it out, not fine to present him as the mean monster who is keeping me from
>> getting a dog.  You are setting him up to fail.
>>
>> This is a stressful time for all of you. Why fight with your husband when
>> you don't need to? You have many many ways to solve this problem.
>>
>> You will need your husband to be on-board with this dog especially when
>> the team is new. You are trying to get what you want in a very ugly
>> manner. That won't bode well for your new dog or your marriage.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
>> Of Shannon Wells
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 11, 2012 9:45 AM
>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] I did it!
>>
>> Well, IMHO prayer always works. My girls have never been in daycare and
>> never had a nanny. My mom works for the school board so is not available.
>> Other family members either work, attend college over an hour away or just
>> won't keep them. I'm a homeschooler, as I've said, so my kids are used to
>> being here with me all the time. I do have a sister who might be able to
>> work out a schedule with my husband, though. As for whether he would want
>> to stay home with them, my opinion on that is, if you don't want to stay
>> home sometimes with your kids, then don't have any. I want another dog
>> very much, but my girls come first, at least for now.
>> Shannon wElls .
>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 9:22 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>>
>>> Why does your husband need to be home with the girls?
>>> Could grandma or a family friend do this?
>>> Maybe you could get a temporary nanny or use daycare for those two
>>> weeks?
>>> My husband wouldn't be able to take two weeks off either. It's not that
>>> he wouldn't want to, he doesn't have the leave, and if he did, he'd
>>> prefer to do something else with it. So would I.
>>> Another option is for hubby to take fmla though I can understand why he'd
>>> not do this.
>>>
>>> If it were me (and I have a kid too) I'd leave hubby out of this. Finding
>>> a solution that doesn't involve him taking time off work will work better
>>> then prayer in this case.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>> Behalf Of Shannon Wells
>>> Sent: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 6:47 PM
>>> To: the National Association of Guide Dog Users NAGDU Mailing List
>>> Subject: [nagdu] I did it!
>>>
>>> Well, I did it! I applied to Pilot Dogs. I filled out the online form.
>>> Still don't have the issue worked out with my husband being able to take
>>> off work to be with my girls, but I'm still praying. Smile.
>>> Shannon Nicole Wells, author
>>> http://www.wildheartbook.com
>>> http://oldtimechristian.blogspot.com
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