[nagdu] I did it!

Thu Jul 12 00:48:35 UTC 2012

Juanita, no I hadn't considered in home training, because I didn't know schoools offered it.
On Jul 11, 2012, at 4:13 PM, Juanita Herrera wrote:

> Shannon,
> To avoid all this, have you considered in-home training? Some schools offer it.
> Juanita and Anise
> 
> On 7/11/12, Shannon Wells <oldtimechristian at gmail.com> wrote:
>> I didn't say anything about my husband's family, because they do not factor
>> in. They are not available and I wouldn't want most of them to be. My
>> husband isn't the bad guy and I never said he was. His biggest concern about
>> taking the time off is that there is no one there at present to fill his
>> shoes, and he would have a huge amount of catching up to do. I'm not trying
>> to sound like I'm praying he will do what I want. I guess it came across
>> that way, because right now, that is the only solution I can see. I get
>> impatient sometimes, so I'm sorry if it came across that my husband and I
>> were arguing, because we're not. No one is mad at anyone. I believe he
>> understands how important it is to me, and I understand how important his
>> job is to him. The thing I keep telling myself is if it's meant to be, it
>> will and if it's not, it won't.
>> Shannon Wells
>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 10:19 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>> 
>>> Shannon,
>>> Prayer works, though it sounds like you are praying that your husband do
>>> what you want and that sort of thing never ends well.
>>> Staying home for two or three weeks is a long time. It's not like a day or
>>> two with a sick kid.
>>> It's difficult on coworkers and on any work projects he's doing. It's very
>>> difficult to catch up when he gets back.
>>> His boss may give him the time under FMLA though that depends on if his
>>> company offers that type of leave.
>>> If his company does offer FMLA, he will need to think about whether or not
>>> this is a good use of that leave. He may feel that it is not.
>>> 
>>> 
>>> You mention having a sister that may keep the girls. That will also be
>>> disruptive. You still won't be around and they will know that. It's really
>>> no different then a nanny or even a daycare.  Depending on their ages,
>>> getting them in for a couple weeks will be a piece of cake. Daycares do
>>> some neat stuff with kids these days so they may really enjoy it.  Either
>>> way, you won't be home. This isn't worth hanging your husband up as the
>>> bad guy.
>>> 
>>> You did not mention his family as an option for looking after the girls.
>>> Any reason why not?
>>> 
>>> Be very careful with the argument "If you aren't willing to stay home, you
>>> shouldn't have kids".  The kids are here and unless I'm missing something,
>>> it sounds like he's an involved dad.  He just isn't doing what you want
>>> when you want.  Using this argument in this situation is unfair and
>>> unkind.  He may need or want to be at work just as badly as you need or
>>> want a dog.
>>> 
>>> Also, be careful too with your dog application.  Fine to go ahead and fill
>>> it out, not fine to present him as the mean monster who is keeping me from
>>> getting a dog.  You are setting him up to fail.
>>> 
>>> This is a stressful time for all of you. Why fight with your husband when
>>> you don't need to? You have many many ways to solve this problem.
>>> 
>>> You will need your husband to be on-board with this dog especially when
>>> the team is new. You are trying to get what you want in a very ugly
>>> manner. That won't bode well for your new dog or your marriage.
>>> 
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
>>> Of Shannon Wells
>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 11, 2012 9:45 AM
>>> To: NAGDU Mailing List, the National Association of Guide Dog Users
>>> Subject: Re: [nagdu] I did it!
>>> 
>>> Well, IMHO prayer always works. My girls have never been in daycare and
>>> never had a nanny. My mom works for the school board so is not available.
>>> Other family members either work, attend college over an hour away or just
>>> won't keep them. I'm a homeschooler, as I've said, so my kids are used to
>>> being here with me all the time. I do have a sister who might be able to
>>> work out a schedule with my husband, though. As for whether he would want
>>> to stay home with them, my opinion on that is, if you don't want to stay
>>> home sometimes with your kids, then don't have any. I want another dog
>>> very much, but my girls come first, at least for now.
>>> Shannon wElls .
>>> On Jul 11, 2012, at 9:22 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>>> 
>>>> Why does your husband need to be home with the girls?
>>>> Could grandma or a family friend do this?
>>>> Maybe you could get a temporary nanny or use daycare for those two
>>>> weeks?
>>>> My husband wouldn't be able to take two weeks off either. It's not that
>>>> he wouldn't want to, he doesn't have the leave, and if he did, he'd
>>>> prefer to do something else with it. So would I.
>>>> Another option is for hubby to take fmla though I can understand why he'd
>>>> not do this.
>>>> 
>>>> If it were me (and I have a kid too) I'd leave hubby out of this. Finding
>>>> a solution that doesn't involve him taking time off work will work better
>>>> then prayer in this case.
>>>> 
>>>> 
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:nagdu-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>>> Behalf Of Shannon Wells
>>>> Sent: Tuesday, July 10, 2012 6:47 PM
>>>> To: the National Association of Guide Dog Users NAGDU Mailing List
>>>> Subject: [nagdu] I did it!
>>>> 
>>>> Well, I did it! I applied to Pilot Dogs. I filled out the online form.
>>>> Still don't have the issue worked out with my husband being able to take
>>>> off work to be with my girls, but I'm still praying. Smile.
>>>> Shannon Nicole Wells, author
>>>> http://www.wildheartbook.com
>>>> http://oldtimechristian.blogspot.com
>>>> http://www.twitter.com/authorshannon
>>>> http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1826550903
>>>> 
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