[Pibe-division] The Problem with TOO Much Help

[Dr. Denise M. Robinson]

I have had many students who
fight the chance to become independent…worse I have parents who back that
neediness up and insist that a para educator be glued by their side all day
long, walking them everywhere and doing everything for them.
Where this backfires in the
greatest area is WHEN the child finally wants to do something, or go somewhere,
or apply for a scholarship or an award, they do not get it or the family
refuses to let them try because they know they have no skills. The child
finally gets what I have been saying all along about living up to their
potential and doing for themselves and that if they don’t it will backfire on
them. 
 They cannot prove to anyone
that they can do anything by themselves because they never have. They have
never gained any independent skills to even walk from point A to point B in the
easiest of locations, let allow to a bus stop or in an airport. They cannot
hang up their own backpack or type on a computer nor do their work by
themselves. 
To someone else who is offering
the great opportunity or a potential employer, they know they will be a deficit
not an asset, so the opportunity will not be offered or rescinded once they
find out about where that person is in independence. The person cannot email
information or self-advocate for himself or herself in anyway and it takes more
than twice the amount of time to do what someone totally capable can do. 
It takes years to gain those
independent skills and the earlier you get started the more opportunity and
doors will be opened for you.
@yourtechvision.com

       Denise 
 
Denise M. Robinson, TVI, Ph.D. 
CEO, TechVision
Specialist in blind technology/teaching/training
email:  yourtechvision at gmail.com
Website with hundreds of lessons: yourtechvision.com 
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