[Ct-nfb] Happy Thanksgiving

Sun Nov 27 11:47:26 UTC 2016

Good morning all,
Eileen, I must confess I missed your original comment, but you should know that at one time or another we all experience demeaning situations, the thing is to just ignore it, and move on. Yes it's very sad that people may not accept us for ourselves, and sometimes they think we're not capable of doing something which we've done several times over, but the thing to try and remember is to show them the patients and understanding because although it's sometimes hurtful, I truly think people don't mean to be rude it's just that they don't understand
For me it's different, because of Janet's disability and my Father in law's age and hearing disability I have developed a care taker roll, although Janet's vision is fortunately still good, her other disabilities are becoming more evident, and forcing me to take a different type roll.
I'm telling you all this because we as a blind community must take the time to educate those around us. Not with arrogance or sarcasm, but with patients, Please understand I'm not saying we should be puppets for anyone but we should remember that, as frustrating it is for us to gain our acceptance & equality, it's just as difficult for the sighted folks to understand what it is we can actually do.
It's a very delegate balance sometimes it's important to kind of swallow our pride, for me if or when I experience a humble or disappointing adventure, I have learned to just laugh it off, and move on. there are times however when I need to remind myself that I can do anything I choose to.
I hope this helps a little, because I went down with Janet to weigh my Father in law I kind of lost my original train of thought, so forgive me if this turns in to my usual rambling or ranting.
Be well all
Rich

Be well 

Riich

    On Saturday, November 26, 2016 6:30 PM, Esther Levegnale via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:

 Hi, Eileen!
Yes, voice inflections say a lot as well, and it's true that it's not what they say, but how they say it.  I totally agree with  you.
Esther

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On Nov 26, 2016, at 1:54 PM, stanley torow via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:

thank you Esther. i was very helpful. some times it's not what they say but the tone of their voice. 
Eileen

On Sat, Nov 26, 2016 at 11:45 AM, Esther Levegnale via CT-NFB wrote:

Hi, Eileen and Everyone!
Yes, it could be very demeaning when people treat you like a child.  My relatives are okay with me, but I have more trouble with strangers.  For example, one time my cousin and I were in Costco and we were sampling different foods.  There was one particular item that had a toothpick in it and the person handing out the food said to my cousin, "Tell her there's a toothpick in it," to which I replied, "You already did, mam."  I had a slight smile on my face when I said this, but it's very degrading when people speak to anyone this way.  Then when a friend tries to tell a waitress or waiter what I want, I interrupt her and tell them myself.  Then when the waiter goes away, I just tell them to please not speak for me, but I try to tell them in a nice tone.  They understand and apologize profusely and realize how wrong they were.  I, of course, accept their apology and move on.
There's a way to be assertive and be nice about it, but if they persist, then you have to be more firm with these people.  There's a saying which is "You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar."
Anyway, that's my take on the situation and hope this helps you.
Esther

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On Nov 26, 2016, at 10:37 AM, stanley torow via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:

thanks Gary.
does anyone else have this problem? and how do they handle it without sounding nasty.
Eileen

On Sat, Nov 26, 2016 at 10:13 AM, Gary Allen via CT-NFB wrote:

You should no reason for that. 
On Sat, Nov 26, 2016 at 10:05 AM stanley torow via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:

i am glad everyone had a good holiday. we did, but i find that relatives that don't see me too often, treat me like a child, just because i don't have perfect vision. wish i could speak up. nest year i will.
Eileen Torow

On Fri, Nov 25, 2016 at 09:25 AM, Mary Silverberg via CT-NFB wrote:

Gary & All,
Thanks for all the good Thanksgiving wishes. Joe & I also had a lovely day yesterday with family in New Jersey.  We are all very fortunate to have much to eat, & friends and family to share. 
Mary

On Thu, Nov 24, 2016 at 11:26 PM, Gary Allen via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:

I spent the day with Rob Palaski
and his family. I had a great time, and the goid was really good also. 
On Thu, Nov 24, 2016 at 10:04 PM Nathanael T. Wales via CT-NFB <ct-nfb at nfbnet.org> wrote:

Gary and Esther,

Thank you both very much for the Thanksgiving wishes to all of us.  I too,
along with my wife and son, spent it with family and had a great time.

Have a great evening,
Nathanael

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Hi, Gary!

Thanks for the Thanksgiving wishes.  Mine was great and I spent it with a
cousin and her family.  We had quite a crowd and wonderful food.  Hope yours
and everyone else's was good too.

Take care.

Esther

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